How Modern Dating Is Changing the Game for Women
Lose The Receipt, Ladies – Your Drawz Get No Returns
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It’s pretty common knowledge that women are runnin’ this sex sh*t. While men are pretty much willing to do any and everything to get the goods – to include climbing valleys, digging mountains, and rocket surgery – the fact is, if a woman ain’t with it, the man ain’t gon’ get it.
Johnny Cochran style.
Sometimes I don’t think women truly grasp this part of it. While so many women are out here being saddened by the ratios of quality men to women that the newspapers were talking about all of last year (they seem to have lost all interest in unattractive Black woman’s plight…yeah I said it) the truth is, women are in control of the one thing men want, need, and desire the most: the happy place. There are lot of ugly girl problems out there running rampant kicking dirt on Michael’s name because basically, women are giving it up for free and expecting noting in return anymore.
In an article written for Slate entitled, “Sex Is Cheap”, the author, Mark Regnerus, muses about the sexual marketplace and how basically, women aren’t asking for much anymore these days in exchange for some wetback. To wit:
As Baumeister and Vohs note, sex in consensual relationships therefore commences only when women decide it does.
And yet despite the fact that women are holding the sexual purse strings, they aren’t asking for much in return these days—the market “price” of sex is currently very low. There are several likely reasons for this. One is the spread of pornography: Since high-speed digital porn gives men additional sexual options—more supply for his elevated demand—it takes some measure of price control away from women. The Pill lowered the cost as well. There are also, quite simply, fewer social constraints on sexual relationships than there once were. As a result, the sexual decisions of young women look more like those of men than they once did, at least when women are in their twenties. The price of sex is low, in other words, in part because its costs to women are lower than they used to be.
It’s really a very interesting article.
But I want to focus on that part bolded up there. If there’s anything responsible for the creation of diva dudes, it’s that. The greatest trick the diva dude ever played on women was convincing them that without him, she’d be alone forever. So even a man (as the article’s main premise points out) with very little going for him outside of surface level success can manage to still get what he wants while a woman holds out hope that eventually she will get what she wants.
Which…*drumroll please*…is a better reason for women to be holding out on the lovin’. It has nothing to do with any set aside amount of time to not look easy. No, ladies. The real reason you all should be holding out on the horizontal lovin’ is that the men aren’t having to work for it anymore. I remember when I was in my freshman year of college and I was dating this chick whose best friend told me that all I had to do was tell her that I loved her and I’d be in there like swimwear. La schmoove. And this was after like a week.
Of course, according to the article and most, making a man work for it is the catch-22; he can just go out and get it from somebody else since…the price is so low. Can’t keep a man without some wubbin’, but you can’t get one without the wubbin’. Basically men are wreaking havoc on ovaries everywhere with little consequence. It’s a sad day, Charlie Brown.
One problem that the article doesn’t discuss – which makes sense since it’s viewing sex in purely economic marketplace terms, and thus, completely value neutral and ceteris peribus – is that women are the most optimistic creatures on the planet. Potential and possibility are criptonite to a woman. Sorry, Tyrese jacked my keyboard. Let me repeat.
Potential and possibility are kryptonite to a woman. It’s why I love women. Hopes and dreams are second nature to a woman and if they have a good man around, they begin attaching his last name to their first name from the first time she wakes up with a smile because of him. Even if it’s because he’s always there because he hasn’t had a job in six months.
The pr0n argument is also one that I think needs work. It only takes the price control away from busted women. See, busted women benefited greatly from man’s impulsive nature and instant gratification-centric mentality when it comes to bootay. But trust me, we ALWAYS regretted it later. Now, high speed pr0n acccess gives you all the jollies with none of the regret. Well aside from the immediate self-loathing that comes with choking your own chicken and questioning how you got that point. But that fades away in three to four minutes. Point is, only busted women should really need to do all the work to get a man in the sack anyway.
That was jacked up. I’m sorry.
What y’all think? Who’s winning, well aside from Charlie Sheen’s lawyers? Are women losing and men winning? Is this much ado about nothing?
Can it be that it was all so simple then and now…it’s just too easy for men?
The choice is yours.